Chapter II: Etiquette of Marriage
alive have been prohibited. QUESTION may be asked that when the object of God is to preserve dynasty, then why He prescribed it destruction by death. Life and death though opposed to each other are within the will of God as love and hatred though opposed to each other are within God's will . God says : He does not love infidelity for His servants . There is in a Hadis Qudsi that God said : I feel no greater grief for anything than to take the life, of My Muslim servant. He considers death as disliking to him and I don't like to trouble him, but there is no escape from death.
God says : I have prescribed death among you. He says : I have created life and death. So the words of God — I have fixed death among you' and I don't wish to inflict trouble on him — these two verses are not opposed to each other, but they express truth. This is the will of God.
(2) Second object of children : By marriage, love is expressed towards the Prophet and efforts are made to increase his followers as he will boast for the increased number of his followers on the Resurrection Day. The Prophet said : A prison in a corner of a house is better than a childless woman. He said :
Among your woman, a lovely woman producing many children is better. He said : An ugly woman with children is better than a beautiful woman having no children . It appears from the above traditions that the object of marriage is to get children and not only satisfaction of sexual passion.
(3)Third object of children. If anybody leaves a religious son or daughter, the or she may pray for his or her dead parents.
There is in Hadis that the actions of a man end by death except his three actions. He mentioned among them a religious issue.
The Prophet said : The invocations are presented like the layers of light of a dead man. If an issue is religious, his parents get the rewards of his pious actions and invocation as he is the earning of his parents, but his parents are not punished for his sins as nobody bears the burden of another. God says : I will attach them to their issues and they will suffer no loss owing to their evil actions but their good deeds will increase owing to the good deeds of their children.
(4) Fourth object of children . If a child dies before his father or mother, he will make intercession for his father or mother. The Prophet said : A child will carry its parents towards Paradise.
There is another Hadis : He will draw his parents as I draw your
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