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He discovered that his wife used to go out with someone before she got married

Praise be to Allah.If this woman has mended her ways and has repented to

Allaah and has given up haraam things and going out with men, and there are no reasons to

be suspicious about her, then our advice is that your friend should keep her and conceal

her past mistakes. Whoever conceals a Muslims faults, Allaah will conceal his faults

in this world and the next. Allaah is Forgiving and Merciful, He forgives and accepts the

repentance of the one who turns to Him in repentance. So we should be forgiving and should

treat the one who has repented in accordance with the way he is now, and help him to

continue to repent. The one who has repented is like one who has never sinned at all. If

the husband conceals his wifes past mistakes and treats her well, this will be of

immense benefit in helping this woman adhere to the straight path and encouraging her to

continue living a life of purity and chastity; her husband will also have a great reward

for concealing her faults, keeping her chaste and helping her to avoid evil and stay on

the straight path, living under his care in a pure atmosphere in the marital home.

If this woman is still persisting in mischief and going out with men

and committing haraam actions, and does not repent despite being advised to do so, then we

do not suggest that he should keep her at all. Let him get rid of her and Allaah will

provide him with another wife.

If she has repented, but he cannot bear what she has done in the past,

and he is tormented with bad thoughts that give him sleepless nights, and he is scared

that if he keeps her he may mistreat her even though she has repented, then he can divorce

her so as to give himself peace of mind and avoid mistreating her. But he should look at

the matter anew and think long and hard about the advice we have given here. Let him think

about himself too: maybe he has made mistakes in the past, or will do so in the future. We

ask Allaah to help him to make the right decision and to guide him to the best way. Allaah

is the Source of strength and the Guide to the Straight Path.

Source: IslamQA (Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid)
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