Aslam

Praise be to Allah.Allaah has

enjoined upholding of family ties and kind treatment of one's wife. We will

never tell you to sever your ties with your sisters or with your wife.

Rather we tell you: bring them together and do not make the division worse.

Love comes

from Allaah. He has created causes of love and causes of hate. So you have

to look at your relationships and seek out the causes of hate and enmity so

that you can remove them. And you should try to bring in the causes of love

so as to encourage it. These causes include: greeting with salaam, giving

gifts, visiting people when they are sick, helping at times of need, and

many other things which Islam tells us strengthen bonds and generate love

among people.

In order to

calm both sides down, you also have to remind each of them of Allaah and His

warning against gossiping, insulting, slandering and interfering in people’s

private affairs.

Adhering to

the limits set by Allaah and giving each party their rights, and respecting

the rights of the other party and not belittling them or annoying them, will

also guarantee happiness and peace in the house and in your relationships.

You have to

advise your wife and your siblings to treat one another well, and try to

remove the problems and disputes that exist between them. If your wife and

siblings are living in the same house, there is nothing wrong with you

giving your wife her own accommodation, if you cannot reconcile between

them. Indeed, this may be a means of removing the disputes between them.

Our advice

to your wife is that she should be friendly towards her husband’s family and

treat them kindly as much as she can, without doing anything that is

forbidden according to sharee’ah. Respecting her husband’s family will make

the relationship between her and her husband remain as good as it can be.

May Allaah help you all to do that which He loves and which pleases Him. May He guide you to the best of words and deeds and attitudes.

And Allaah knows best.