Aslam

Praise be to Allah.

It is narrated in al-Bukhaari (5065) and Muslim (3384) that

‘Abd-Allaah ibn Mas’ood said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and

blessings of Allaah be upon him) said to us: “O young men, whoever among you

can afford to get married, let him do so, for it is more effective in

lowering the gaze and preserving chastity. Whoever cannot afford it, let him

fast, for that will be a shield for him” – i.e., it will reduce and weaken

his desire.

Based on this, if a person can afford to get married then he

should hasten to do so, because of the many benefits that this brings, as

mentioned by the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him),

namely it helps him to lower his gaze and protect his chastity, increases

the numbers of the ummah and offers protection against temptation and

mischief.

Ibn Mas’ood (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: “If I only

had ten days left to live and I knew that I was going to die on the last of

them, and I could afford to get married, I would get married, for fear of

fitnah (temptation).”

Imam Ahmad (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: “Celibacy has

nothing to do with Islam at all.”

If you fear hardship for yourself and that you may and fall

into sin, then in that case it is obligatory for you to get married.

In this case parents are advised to arrange their son’s

marriage and not to stand in the way of his remaining chaste and protecting

himself from temptation.

Ibn Qudaamah (may Allaah

have mercy on him) said: “With regard to marriage, people fall into three

categories. Some of them fear that they may fall into sin if they do not get

married, in which case it is obligatory to marry, according to the view of

most of the fuqaha’, because this will make a person remain chaste and

protect him from committing haraam actions; the only way to do is to get

married.”

Al-Mughni, 9/341.

You have to deal gently and kindly with your parents and try

to convince them of your need to get married, and tell them that this will

never conflict with what they want for you in the future. You can also seek

the help of wise people among your relatives to convince your parents.

The questioner is to be commended for not going out to places

of fitnah (temptation) and not fulfilling his desires by haraam means. We

ask Allaah to make you steadfast and to help you to find a good wife who

will be a delight to you and your parents, for He is Ever-near and

Responsive.

And Allaah is the Source of strength.