Aslam

Praise be to Allah.

We begin by thanking Allaah for this

gheerah (protective jealousy); may Allaah help you to enjoin what is

good and forbid what is evil. We advise you to continue with what you are

doing of advising your husband and his relatives in the best manner, until

you find among these people someone whom Allaah will guide at your hands to

give up these haraam actions. In this way it will become easier for those

who think that they are weak and unable to change, to mend their ways and

adhere to the commands of sharee’ah. You have to seek help in your efforts

to advise them by praying to Allaah for these people, being kind to them and

not acting superior to them, but rather showing kindness and compassion

towards them, because that is more likely to be accepted and this is

something that may earn their respect despite your young age.

In addition to that, you must also strive

to avoid joining them in the wrong things that they are doing, lest you

yourself weaken with regard to these evil actions, especially the bad movies

that you mentioned. The believer cannot assume that he is safe from

temptation, rather he must help himself to fight it by keeping away from bad

things and by making du’aa’.

With regard to what you said about feeling

sad, jealous and angry for the sake of one’s religion, this is a blessing

from Allaah to His slave – but these feelings must be controlled according

to the guidelines of sharee’ah. Sadness should not lead to despair and so

on. Allaah said to His Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon

him):

“So

destroy not yourself (O Muhammad) in sorrow for them”

[Faatir 35:8]

Anger should not put off those whom

you are calling, for the purpose is to reform him, not simply to express

one's frustration and anger.

So long as your husband is a Muslim who

prays and is kind (as you mention), then be patient with him and continue to

call him (da’wah); perhaps Allaah will bless you by guiding him and causing

him to follow the ways of chastity.

Perhaps if you think about the calamities

that have befallen other wives who have suffered because of husbands who are

worse than yours, that will make you put your husband’s sins into

perspective. We ask Allaah to guide him and you, and to guide us and all of

mankind to that which He loves and is pleased with. And Allaah is the Source

of strength.