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Her sister mistreated her – should she forsake her?

Praise be to Allah.and blessings and peace be upon the

Messenger of Allaah.

We ask Allaah to compensate you with the best of that with

which He compensates His slaves who are patient, and to expand your heart,

and to make things easier for you, and to improve your relationship with

your family, for He is All-Hearing, Ever-Near.

With regard to your forsaking your sister, if that is because

she is doing something that goes against sharee’ah, and your forsaking her

will achieve some purpose for you, by keeping you safe from her evil and

harm, or it will achieve some purpose for her, by influencing her and making

her give up her sin, then there is nothing wrong with it.

But if it is for some personal reasons, or for some

difference of opinion over some worldly matters, such as some family

problems, then it is not permissible to forsake her or cut off ties with

her. If you greet her with salaams, then you are no longer regarded as

having forsaken her. That does not necessarily mean that you have to spend a

lot of time with her or talk to her a lot, especially if such contact will

not serve any purpose for you or for her.

We advise you to try to get to know some good and righteous

women by attending gatherings of good women, such as classes to memorize

Qur’aan and the like, so that they can be a good help to you in doing good,

and a means of warding off this introversion of which you complain, and so

that you may benefit from their knowledge and activities.

We also advise you to try to benefit from your free time by

listening to useful tapes and reading useful books which will increase you

in faith and knowledge.

With regard to the servant who is falling short in her work

and mistreating you, there is nothing wrong with you rebuking her and

disciplining her in a manner appropriate to her misbehaviour and in a manner

that will improve her, without transgressing the limits or harming her.

With regard to the rulings on Witr and Taraaweeh prayers, you

will find the answers to your questions in the Seasonal Topics section of

this website, under the heading “Night Prayer during Ramadaan.”

If you want more information, please see look under the

category: Fiqh (jurisprudence and Islamic rulings) > Ibaadaat (acts of

worship) > Salaah (prayer) – Salaat al-Naafilah (Supererogatory prayer) >

Qiyaam al-Layl (prayers at night), in the subcategories tree.

Under Question no. 1255 you will

find an answer concerning carrying the Mus-haf during night prayers.

With regard to carrying a book of du’aa’s whilst praying

Taraaweeh, there is nothing wrong with that, but it is better to try to

memorize some of the du’aa’s and recite them during your prayer. This is

more conducive to thinking of the meaning of the du’aa’ and not moving too

much whilst praying.

We ask Allaah to help you to do that which is good and to

keep you away from evil and its people… Ameen. Praise be to Allaah, the Lord

of the Worlds.

Source: IslamQA (Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid)
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