Aslam

Praise be to Allah.We advise

you to forget what happened in the past between you and your uncle. We think

that you have given the matter more attention than it deserves. Your uncle’s

entering the house without asking permission is not permissible for him,

even if he is entering the house of his sister. Seeking permission is

obligatory in his case, and your father’s approval of your uncle visiting

his house is what matters. He agreed to that, as is suggested by the fact

that he continued to visit him for such a long time. The fact that you did

not take the exam that year and you failed is something for which you must

bear responsibility. Most Muslim families have their problems, and the wise

man is the one who knows how to deal with these problems and tries to solve

the problems or reduce them. We do not think that your giving up your

studying for the exam served any purpose, and you must bear responsibility

for that. You should not keep on thinking about what is past, for that will

cause psychological problems for yourself and your family. Forget about it

and get on with your work; seek the help of Allaah and uphold the ties of

kinship and give advice to those who are erring. Do not pay any attention to

what the shaytaan makes attractive to you, namely the idea of bringing a

case against your uncle and taking financial compensation from him. In

addition to the fact that this case may fail in court, it will cause more

rifts in your family, and we would not like you to be the cause of that.

Mercy should prevail over anger and the desire for revenge. We ask Allaah to

open your heart and to bring you and your family together in goodness.

And Allaah

is the Source of strength.