Aslam

Praise be to Allah.It seems that the series of

sufferings that you are facing with this woman will continue, and the list

of her bad deeds will grow longer. Her bad treatment of your little girl

will never know any limit; if your daughter was an animal it would not be

permissible for her to do what she has done to her.

We are certain that if your

son from her were to suffer as your daughter is suffering because of not

being able to go to the bathroom by himself, you would not see him being

treated as badly as she is treating your daughter. This -- unfortunately --

happens a lot with the wives of fathers, and many, both male and female,

suffer from this.

What we advise you to do

is:

You must deal with the

matter seriously and quickly, try to instil a sense of love, mercy and

compassion in her heart, in the hope that she will stop what she is doing.

If you succeed in doing that, then you will have achieved what you want and

she will still be your wife.

If you do not succeed, then

you have no choice but divorce. We do not advise you to be hardhearted and

harsh, because that will only make her more cruel towards your daughter, and

she will find more ways to harm her, whilst concealing the evidence of her

misdeeds. Hence if she does not respond to you and change her behaviour, and

mend her ways in response to kindness and persuasion, there is no solution

that will put an end to your suffering except divorce, sooner rather than

later. You are aware of your daughter’s suffering, and you hear her cries,

and you see the injury to her face and the burns on her leg and stomach, yet

despite that you're still confused because you have a son from her. So how

would it be if there were more children then?! But we will not hide anything

from you, and we will tell you frankly that with a woman such as this, whom

you have divorced twice yet it has not stopped her wrongdoing and

aggression, there is no hope for much good in her, and it cannot be expected

that she will be kind to your daughter, because mercy cannot be instilled by

means of threats or warnings in the heart of one whom Allaah has deprived of

it.

If you think of divorcing

her for a third time, or she sees signs of that in you, do not leave your

daughter with her, rather leave her with one of your relatives or with

trustworthy women among your neighbours or friends, because she might try to

take revenge on her because of your divorcing her. We do not know how you

are going to deal with the matter, because women vary, hence we are afraid

that she may do something to your daughter. With such women there is no

regret in separating from them.

We ask Allaah to relieve your distress and worry, and to reward you for your calamity, and replace it with good from Him.

And Allaah knows best.