Aslam

Praise be to Allah.

Firstly:

Forming

friendships, in the light of what you have mentioned of your love for people

and your kindness and politeness towards them, should be easy, in sha Allah.

That is because

the basic foundation for success in social relationships is love for people,

and being kind and polite towards them.

After that, all

you have to do is take some effective practical steps to establish and build

friendships and strengthen bonds, such as trying to take part in some

collective activities, the most important of which is praying in

congregation in the mosque in your university, if possible, or joining some

women’s activities in your college.

You can also try

to join various student clubs – that are for females only – which will give

you the opportunity to get to know people and make friends with other female

students in your class.

You can also

establish contact with other female students with whom you share common

interests, such as sharing a love of reading, exchanging useful books with

one another and encouraging one another to do good deeds, such as reading

Qur’an, praying regularly, attending study circles, helping the needy among

your fellow students and neighbours, and other activities that are of

benefit in both religious and worldly terms.

Another

beneficial means of establishing friendships is helping students who have

difficulties in understanding some subjects and topics, by providing them

with notes and trying to explain the material to them and make it easy for

them.

Secondly:

With regard to

your infatuation with that young man, what appears to be the case is that

this is the result of some hidden emotions that have manifested themselves

in a wrong way, because of your ongoing anxiety at not being able to form

friendships, and your feeling that the students are ignoring you.

Whatever the

case, what you must do in this situation, according to Islamic teachings, is

to release this energy and these emotions in a manner that is pleasing to

Allah and that will benefit you in this world and in the hereafter, such as

expressing it in the form of love for Allah, may He be exalted, and striving

to obey Him, and love for the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of

Allah be upon him) and following his Sunnah, forming friendships and sound

relationships with others, doing charitable or humanitarian deeds, honouring

your parents, upholding ties of kinship, and showing kindness to neighbours.

There is nothing

wrong with devoting some of your energy to keeping pets or growing plants,

or other appropriate, permissible deeds, in order to provide an outlet for

hidden emotions.

You must also

close every door that could enable you to follow this young man and become

more attached to him, because of what could result from that of sin, first

of all, and also psychological and spiritual exhaustion.

Moreover, this

young man does not know you or love you or care about you, and following him

will lead to nothing except a vicious circle of emotional and psychological

pain, in addition to what you will accumulate of sin as a result of loving

one whom Allah has commanded you to hate, let alone the corruption that this

may cause to your heart, soul and spirit as a result of getting used to

following this evil person and listening to his foul language and shameless

words and deeds.

May Allah help

us and you to do that which He loves and which pleases Him, may He be

glorified.