Aslam

Praise be to Allah.You have to be kind to your mother and treat her well and

talk to her in a nice manner, because the rights of the mother are great

indeed. But you do not have to obey her in anything that is not right,

because the Prophet (peace and

blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, “Obedience is only with regard

to that which is right and proper.” And he

(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, “There is no obedience

to any created being if it involves disobedience to the Creator.” The

same applies to one’s father, husband and others; they should not be

obeyed in matters of sin because of the hadeeth mentioned above. But

a wife, child, etc., has to use kindness and good manners in order to

solve problems, by explaining the evidence of sharee’ah and the obligation

of obeying Allaah and His Messenger and of avoiding sin, of adhering

steadfastly to the truth and not obeying any command from a husband,

father, mother, etc., that goes against the truth.

There is nothing to prevent you watching anything on TV

or video that does not contain anything evil, or listening to educational

broadcasts or useful lessons. But beware of watching anything in which

evil things are shown. It is also not permissible to go to the cinema

because of the various kinds of evil involved.

It is not advisable to have a television at home because

so much of what it shows is false or haraam. Your mother’s telling you

that if you do not enjoy yourself and have fun, you will become an old

woman and your hair will turn grey is just foolish nonsense; it is like

the myths and stories that children tell. So do not listen to these

words. But there is nothing wrong with having fun if it is permissible,

such as going to rivers, looking at the trees and hunting. But if the

leisure activity is haraam, you must avoid it, no matter what it is.