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my dad knew every thing about what do you have to do to be a muslem, and he always tell us to do what god ask us to do and he always tell us or show us the right way and he love the god he always tell us to pray and fast everything that make god yerdah anna , but he never did them and never say anthing bad about the islam and he want everybody to be a muslem , but he never pray or fast or anything like that ; what do you call that ? what should we do ?

Praise be to Allah.

Firstly:

It is not permissible for your father to neglect prayer,

because neglecting prayer is kufr (disbelief). See the answer to Question

# 2182 and 10094.

Secondly:

Your father must beware of the consequences of this action,

which is that he is telling others to do what is right but not doing

it himself, and forbidding them to do what is wrong but doing it himself.

There are severe warnings to those who do this.

It was narrated that Usaamah ibn Zayd said: “I heard

the Messenger of Allaah

(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) say, ‘A man will be brought

on the Day of Resurrection and will be thrown into Hell, where his intestines

will be spilled out and he will go around like a donkey goes around

a millstone. The people of Hell will gather around him and say: O so-and-so!

What is wrong with you? Didn't you use to order us to do good deeds

and forbid us to do bad deeds? He will reply: Yes, I used to order you

to do good deeds, but I did not do them myself, and I used to forbid

you to do bad deeds, yet I used to do them myself.’”

(Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 3027; Muslim, 5305)

Thirdly:

Your duty towards your father is to try your best to

call him (da’wah) and tell him that it is obligatory to do the prayers,

with wisdom and beautiful preaching. Your eagerness to guide your father

is one of the greatest ways in which you can honour him. You have to

be patient when doing that, and strive hard in making du’aa’ that he

will be guided.

Remember the story of Ibraaheem (peace be upon him) and

his father, who was calling him to shirk, and how Ibraaheem replied

to him and was kind and gentle in the way that he spoke to him.

And remember the story of Abu Hurayrah with his mother,

and how keen he was to call his mother and guide her to Islam. Perhaps

(these stories) may encourage you to strive in calling your father.

It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah said: “I used to call my mother (to

Islam) when she was still a mushrikah. I called her one day and she

said something about the Messenger of Allaah

(peace and blessings of  Allaah be upon him) that upset me. I went

to the Messenger of Allaah

(peace and blessings of Allaaah be upon him), weeping. I said, ‘O Messenger

of Allaah, I was calling my mother to Islam and she refused. I called

her today and she said something about you that I upset me. Pray to

Allaah to guide the mother of Abu Hurayrah.’ So the Messenger of Allaah

(peace and blessings of Allaaah be upon him) said, ‘O Allaah, guide

the mother of Abu Hurayrah.’ I left, feeling hopeful because of the

du’aa’ of the Messenger of Allaah

(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). When I got home, I went

to the door and found it slightly ajar. My mother heard my footsteps

and said, ‘Stay where you are, O Abu Hurayrah!’ I could hear the sound

of water. She bathed and put on her garment, and hastened to put on

her khimaar, then she opened the door and said, ‘O Abu Hurayrah, I bear

witness that there is no god but Allaah and I bear witness that Muhammad

is the Messenger of Allaah.’ I went back to the Messenger of Allaah

(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) weeping with joy. I said,

‘O Messenger of Allaah, Allaah has answered your prayer and guided the

mother of Abu Hurayrah. He praised and thanked Allaah, and said good

words. I said, ‘O Messenger of Allaah, pray to Allaah to make me and

my mother beloved to the believers and make them beloved to us.’ The

Messenger of Allaah

(peace and blessings of Allaaah be upon him) said, ‘O Allaah, make this

little slave of Yours – meaning Abu Hurayrah – and his mother beloved

to Your believing slaves and make the believers beloved to them.’ No

believer heard of me or saw me but he loved me.”

(Narrated by Muslim, Fadaa’il al-Sahaabah, 4546)

May Allaah help us all to do that which He loved and

which pleases Him.

Source: IslamQA (Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid)
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