my mother swore to me she would not gove me any mony more but now she does want to give me mony, and i dont want to take it, what shell i do take the money or not.
Praise be to Allah.There
is nothing wrong with taking money from her out of respect for her.
In this case she has to offer expiation (kafaarah) for her oath,
because she did not fulfil it. Kafaarat al-yameen (expiation
for an unfulfilled oath) means feeding ten poor people with the average
food that your family eats, or clothing them, or freeing a slave. What
is obligatory in feeding is half a saa’ of the staple food of the country,
such as dates, wheat, etc. It is equivalent to approximately one and
a half kilograms of rice, which should be given with something that
can be eaten with it, to one poor person. It is obligatory to give to
ten different people. If you can find a family of poor Muslims composed
of ten members, or two or three families who numbers add up to ten,
and you give them fifteen kilograms of rice, along with some meat, for
example, this will be sufficient. Or you can distribute to them what
is needed for ten lunches or dinners already cooked, of the food that
an average person needs for lunch, and this is sufficient. Clothing
means that which is needed to cover the ‘awrah for prayer. If your mother
is unable to feed or clothe poor people, or free a slave, then she has
to fast for three days, because Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“Allaah
will not punish you for what is unintentional in your oaths, but He
will punish you for your deliberate oaths; for its expiation (a deliberate
oath) feed ten Masaakeen (poor persons), on a scale of the average of
that with which you feed your own families, or clothe them or manumit
a slave. But whosoever cannot afford (that), then he should fast for
three days. That is the expiation for the oaths when you have sworn.
And protect your oaths (i.e. do not swear much)…” [al-Maa’idah
5:89]
We advise
you to avoid doing anything that may make your mother angry. She did
not make an oath except for you were disposing of the money in a manner
of which she did not approve. May Allaah help us and you to do all that
is good.