Aslam

Praise be to Allah.If the

husband travels and wants to take his wife with him, she has to accompany

him and move with him, so long as she will be able to live a suitable life

and will not be harmed by this travelling.

Imam Maalik

(may Allah have mercy on him) said:

The husband

has the right to travel with his wife from one country to another, even if

she is reluctant, and he should spend on her.

End quote

from Tahdheeb al-Mudawwanah, 1/421

Ibn Qudaamah

said in al-Mughni (8/181):

The woman is

entitled to maintenance from her husband, provided that she make herself

completely available to her husband. If she refuses to make herself

available or her guardians prevent her from doing so, then she is not

entitled to maintenance, even if they stay together for a while. The Prophet

(blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) married ‘Aa’ishah and consummated

the marriage with her after two years, and he did not spend on her

maintenance until after he had consummated the marriage, and was not obliged

to spend on her for the time that had passed, because maintenance becomes

obligatory in return for the wife making herself available as is his right

according to the marriage contract; if this condition is met she is entitled

to it and if it is not met then she is not entitled to anything.

If she has

made herself available in an incomplete manner, by saying: I submit myself

to you in my house and nowhere else, or in such and such a place and nowhere

else, then she is not entitled to anything, unless she stipulated that in

the marriage contract, because she has not made herself fully available as

required by the marriage contract, so she is not entitled to maintenance.

End quote.

This right

is confirmed in your case, because you told them about that and they

agreed.

What the

wife is required to do is to obey her husband and travel with him, and

settle with him in the country where his livelihood is, so long as she can

live a decent life there.

She has to

try hard to be patient and adjust to the new environment in which she is

living; she can make friends with Muslim sisters and join them in doing acts

of worship and other good deeds, such as memorising Qur’an, visiting one

another, and so on.

She should

always remember the great rights that her husband has over her and that she

is obliged to obey him and do what he tells her to do, and she should love

to accompany him and be content to live with him whatever the circumstances.

In this manner, Muslim households will be established on a foundation of

love and harmony, and the kind treatment that is expected in Islam, which

will achieve the purposes of marriage.

It should be

noted that these negative feelings are temporary and will disappear, if

Allah wills, if she is patient, puts up with it and seeks the help of Allah,

may He be exalted, as has happened to many other women.

The husband

has to understand that this complaint is not something felt by his wife

only; rather many women make the same complaint because of feeling isolated

and lonely. The husband has to deal with the matter in a wise and careful

manner, and do all that he can to help her to overcome this problem. He

should give her as much of his time as he can and not come back home late

after finishing work, or go out after finishing work, except for urgent

reasons. If he can take his wife with him he should do so, and he should

help her to find female friends who will help her cope with the pain of

loneliness and feeling isolated. He should asked for help from wise people

among her family who can advise and guide her, and encourage her to live in

Saudi so that she can do Hajj and ‘Umrah and pray in the Haram and so on.

We ask Allah

to bring you together in a good way.

And Allah knows best.