Aslam

Praise be to Allah.

Firstly:

Zina

(fornication or adultery) is a major sin. Allaah has forbidden doing the

things that lead to it and has prescribed the hadd punishment for the one

who does it, and He has warned adulterers of punishment in the Hereafter.

Allaah says

(interpretation of the meaning):

“And come

not near to unlawful sex. Verily, it is a Faahishah (i.e. anything that

transgresses its limits: a great sin), and an evil way that leads one to

hell unless Allaah forgives him”

[al-Isra’

17:32].

Ibn Jareer

al-Tabari (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:

“And come

not near” O people

“to

unlawful sex. Verily, it is a Faahishah (i.e. anything that transgresses its

limits: a great sin)”. Zina (translated here as “unlawful sex”) is a

great sin.

“and an

evil way” i.e., the way of zina is an evil way, because it is the way of

the people who disobey Allaah and go against His command; what a bad way is

the way that leads a person to the fire of Hell.

Tafseer

al-Tabari

(17/438).

Shaykh ‘Abd

al-Rahmaan al-Sa’di (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:

The

prohibition on approaching it is more eloquent than a simple prohibition on

doing it, because that includes the prohibition on all the things that lead

to it and promote it, because “the one who grazes his flock around a

protected areas will soon transgress upon it,” especially in a matter of

this nature when the motive is very strong. Allaah describes zina as

abhorrent, as He says “it is a Faahishah (i.e. anything that transgresses

its limits: a great sin)”, i.e., it is a sin which is abhorrent

according to sharee’ah, reason and common sense, because it is a

transgression against Allaah, and against the woman and her family or

husband, and it leads to immorality, confusion of lineages and other evil

consequences.

“and an

evil way” means: what an evil way is the way of the one who dares to

commit this grave sin.

Tafseer

al-Sa’di

(p. 457).

See also the

answers to questions no. 76060,

20983 and

95754.

Secondly:

With regard to

the abortion, if the soul had been breathed into the foetus, then this is

another crime in addition to the crime of zina. If the soul had not yet been

breathed into the foetus then it is less serious.

For a detailed

discussion on that, please see the answers to questions no.

11195,

13319,

13331 and

90054.

Thirdly:

We praise

Allaah for having enabled you to repent, and we hope that it is sincere

repentance. The conditions of sincere repentance include: regretting the

sins that you have committed, and immediately giving up that immoral action,

and everything that leads to it such as contact, correspondence and dates.

The conditions of repentance also include resolving not to return to this

deed.

You also have

to do a lot of righteous deeds, such as prayer, reading Qur’aan and fasting,

so as to strengthen your faith and piety. Good deeds erase bad deeds and

sincere repentance erases that which came before it, and turns bad deeds

into good deeds. Allaah says – after mentioning the sins of shirk

(associating others with Allaah), murder and zina – (interpretation of the

meaning):

“Except

those who repent and believe (in Islamic Monotheism), and do righteous

deeds; for those, Allaah will change their sins into good deeds, and Allaah

is Oft‑Forgiving, Most Merciful”

[al-Furqaan

25:70].

Fourthly:

With regard to

marrying that criminal, you should understand that in order for the marriage

of a man and woman who had committed zina to be valid, it is essential that

they repent sincerely. It seems to us from your questions that he has not

repented from what he did, rather he had added to the first calamity the

other bad things that he is doing, such as smoking hasheesh and drinking

intoxicants. What we think is that one who is like this also does not pray.

If this is indeed the case, then it is definitely not permissible to accept

him as a husband, because not praying is kufr that puts a person beyond the

pale of Islam, and it is not permissible for a Muslim woman to marry a

kaafir.

For a more

detailed discussion on the issue of marrying a zaani (one who commits

fornication or adultery), please see the answers to questions no.

85335,

87894 and

96460.

Fifthly:

With regard to

having an operation to repair the hymen, this is haraam, because it is

deceiving the one who marries you.

For a detailed

discussion of this matter, please see the answer to question no.

844.

With regard to

telling your future husband that you lost your virginity in this haraam

relationship, that is not permissible, because it is exposing your faults,

and the Muslim is required to conceal his faults. You can use double

entendres in your speech. It is well known that the hymen may be broken by

means of something other than intercourse in some cases, so you can make the

most of that by using a double entendre.

See the answer

to question no. 42992.

But if it is

possible to encourage this person to repent sincerely and pray regularly,

and he shows sincerity and signs of repenting and praying regularly, then

there is nothing wrong with accepting him as a husband. Undoubtedly this

solution would be easier for you, and more concealing for you, but how could

one believe a person like that?!

We ask Allaah

to accept your repentance and set your affairs straight, and to conceal our

faults and yours in this world and in the Hereafter.

And Allaah

knows best.