Aslam

Praise be to Allah.Firstly:

Mixing between men and

women is haraam. See the answer to question no.

1200.

What you must do is repent

to Allaah from what has happened of that, and resolve not to do it again in

the future.

Secondly:

It is haraam for a woman to

strive for her Muslim sister to be divorced, because the Prophet (peace

and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “no woman should ask for her

sister to be divorced so as to deprive her of what is rightfully hers and

take it for herself.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (2140) and Muslim (1413). So

it is not permissible to encourage or tempt the husband to divorce his wife.

Thirdly:

If the wish to marry came

from the husband, and you did not try to separate him from his wife, it is

permissible for you to accept, but we do not advise you to do that for

several reasons:

(i)There is no guarantee that this

man will not like someone else and choose her over you as he did with his

first wife.

(ii)Your agreeing to marry him will

stir up resentment, hatred and enmity in the heart of his wife, and you will

not be safe from her ill-will and harm.

(iii)What you have mentioned about

him working in the bank; he may leave it as he said he would, or he may not.

This is what we think. If,

after thinking long and hard about the matter, you decide to agree to marry

him, then pray istikhaarah and ask Allaah for guidance, and wait until he

finds another job that is permissible.

We ask Allaah to help you

to do that in which there is goodness, success and guidance.

And Allaah knows best.