Aslam

Praise be to Allah.Firstly:

We ask

Allaah to make things easier for you, and to relieve your distress and grant

you provision from His bounty.

Secondly:

If what you

mean by adoption is that you are named after the person who adopted you and

you are regarded as his son with regard to mahrams, inheritance etc, then

this is the kind of adoption that is haraam and was abolished by Islam.

But if what

you mean is that he took care of you, sponsored you and treated you kindly,

without your taking his name, then there is nothing wrong with that, rather

it is praiseworthy and it is hoped that the one who does that will be

rewarded. See question no. (10010).

It is

obvious that according to shar’i rules, you are a “stranger” (non-mahram) in

this house, so you cannot be alone with the sister of the one who adopted

you, or with his wife or daughter, and you are not entitled to inherit from

any of them, and your wife cannot uncover in front of the one who adopted

you, and he cannot be alone with her, because he is not your father

according to sharee’ah.

Thirdly:

It is not

permissible for a Muslim woman to marry a kaafir, whether he is a Jew, a

Christian or anything else, because Allaah says (interpretation of the

meaning):

“And give

not (your daughters) in marriage to Al‑Mushrikoon (polytheists) till they

believe (in Allaah Alone) and verily, a believing slave is better than a

(free) Mushrik (idolater), even though he pleases you. Those (Al-Mushrikoon)

invite you to the Fire, but Allaah invites (you) to Paradise and forgiveness

by His Leave, and makes His Ayaat (proofs, evidences, verses, lessons,

signs, revelations, etc.) clear to mankind that they may remember”

[al-Baqarah 2:221]

“then if

you ascertain that they are true believers send them not back to the

disbelievers. They are not lawful (wives) for the disbelievers nor are the

disbelievers lawful (husbands) for them”

[al-Mumtahanah 60:10]

Shaykh

al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: The Muslims are

unanimously agreed that a kaafir cannot inherit from a Muslim and a kaafir

man cannot marry a Muslim woman. End quote from al-Fataawa al-Kubra

(3/130).

What the

sister of your adoptive father has done by marrying a Christian man is a

great wrong, and it is an invalid marriage which must be annulled; it is not

permissible for her to stay with this man under any circumstances. She also

has to repent to Allaah and beseech Him to forgive her and pardon her.

It is not

permissible for you to live with her in the presence of the husband

mentioned, because that involves remaining silent about this great wrong, as

well as what you have mentioned about him drinking alcohol.

All of this

is in addition to the fact that this woman is not really your paternal aunt,

so it is not permissible for you to enter upon her or be alone with her, let

alone live with her in the same house!

Fourthly:

You should

look for permissible work by means of which you can take care of yourself

and your family. Be sure that provision comes from Allaah and that there are

many means of acquiring provision, although some people are unaware of that.

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “By

Allaah, for one of you to go out and carry firewood on his back and sell it

is better for him than to ask a man who may give him (something) or withhold

from him.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (1470) and Muslim (1042).

You have an

example in ‘Abd al-Rahmaan ibn ‘Awf (may Allaah be pleased with him).

Al-Bukhaari (2048) narrated that ‘Abd al-Rahmaan ibn ‘Awf (may Allaah be

pleased with him) said: When we came to Madeenah, the Messenger of Allaah

(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) established brotherhood

between me and Sa’d ibn al-Rabee’. Sa’d ibn al-Rabee’ said: I am the

wealthiest of the Ansaar, and I will give you half of my wealth. And see

which of my two wives you want; I will give her up for  you and when she

becomes permissible (after the divorce and ‘iddah), you can marry her.

‘Abd

al-Rahmaan said to him: I have no need of that. Is there any market in which

trading is done?

He said: The

market of Qaynuqa’.

The next

morning, ‘Abd al-Rahmaan went there and brought some dried yoghurt and ghee,

then he went there the next day, and soon ‘Abd al-Rahmaan came with traces

of yellow perfume on him.

The

Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:

“Have you got married?” He said: Yes. He said: “To whom?” He said: To an

Ansaari woman. He said: “How much (dowry) did you give her?” He said: The

weight of a date stone in gold (or a date stone of gold). The Prophet (

(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Give a wedding feast,

even if it is with just one sheep.”

So seek the

help of Allaah, and do not feel helpless; ask Allaah to make you independent

of means by His bounty.

And Allaah

knows best.