Aslam

Praise be to Allah.You have

done well in your intention to help your fiancé so that he can get married

to you. This is something for which you should be thanked, and it is

indicative of strong religious commitment and deep wisdom.

Your helping

your fiancé to go ahead with the marriage is helping him with his religious

commitment and faith, and this is one of the greatest acts of worship, and

is something that is regarded as praiseworthy in Islam. It is one of the

best ways of spending one’s money.

It was

narrated that Thawbaan said: When the verse “And

those who hoard up gold and silver” [al-Tawbah 9:34]

was revealed, we were with the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah

be upon him) on one of his journeys. One of his companions said: This has

been revealed concerning gold and silver; if we knew of any better kind of

wealth we would acquire it. He said: “The best of it is a tongue that

remembers Allaah, a heart that is grateful and a believing wife who will

help him with his faith.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi (3094) and Ibn Maajah

(1856). In Ibn Maajah’s report it says: “who will help one of you with

regard to the Hereafter.” The hadeeth was classed as hasan by al-Tirmidhi

and as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi.

Shaykh

al-Mubaarakfoori (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:

“A believing

wife who will help him with his faith” means with his religious commitment,

by reminding him to pray and fast and to do other acts of worship, and will

prevent him from committing zina and other haraam deeds.

Tuhfat

al-Ahwadhi (8/390)

Undoubtedly

marriage helps a man to obey Allaah and keeps him away from haraam things

such as looking and listening, and protects him from falling into zina.

This is in

general terms, but you should pay attention to some things, including the

following:

1-The man’s seriousness with

regard to marriage and how hard is is striving to meet the requirements of

marriage. Because some people depend on the help of others and are not

serious about doing what is required of them.

2-If your fiancé is serious and

he can afford some of the expenses of marriage but not all of them, there is

nothing wrong with your helping him with some of what he needs, such as the

wife buying some of the furniture and household equipment, or paying for

some of the wedding expenses.

3-The fiancé is a “stranger”

(non-mahram) to his fiancée until the marriage contract is done, so during

the engagement period it is not permissible for him to be alone with her,

shake hands with her or go out with her, rather he is like any other

stranger. See question no.

2572.

We ask

Allaah to help you both to do that which He loves and which pleases Him, and

to bless you with good offspring.

And Allaah

knows best.