Aslam

Praise be to Allah.Our advice to you is to

heed the command that Allaah has given to all people, the earlier and later

(generations), advice that combines the best of this world and the

Hereafter. Allaah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):

“And verily, We have

recommended to the people of the Scripture before you, and to you (O

Muslims) that you (all) fear Allaah, and keep your duty to Him”

[al-Nisa’ 4:131]

What goodness can there be

in this world if it involves incurring the wrath of the Lord, may He be

exalted? What happiness can there be if it is not following that path that

leads to Allaah’s pleasure? Would a believer be happy to make gains in this

world and lose out in the Hereafter?

Allaah says (interpretation

of the meaning):

“O you who believe! Fear

Allaah and keep your duty to Him. And let every person look to what he has

sent forth for the morrow, and fear Allaah. Verily, Allaah is All‑Aware of

what you do.

19. And be not like

those who forgot Allaah (i.e. became disobedient to Allaah), and He caused

them to forget their ownselves (let them to forget to do righteous deeds).

Those are the Faasiqoon (rebellious, disobedient to Allaah).

20. Not equal are the

dwellers of the Fire and the dwellers of the Paradise. It is the dwellers of

Paradise that will be successful”

[al-Hashr 59:18-20].

The Prophet (peace and

blessings of Allaah be upon him) told men to choose a wife who is

religiously-committed, and he told women and their guardians to choose a man

who is also religiously-committed.

It was narrated that Abu

Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: the Prophet (peace and

blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “If there comes to you one whose

religious commitment and attitude pleases you, then marry [your female

relative who is under your care] to him, for if you do not do that, there

will be tribulation on earth and much corruption.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi

and classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in al-Silsilah al-Saheehah

(1022).

The man who prevents his

wife from wearing hijab is not a man of good character or religiously

committed who deserves to be married. Rather it is most likely that the one

who prevents his wife from wearing hijab will also be negligent about other

major sins and actions that doom one to Hell. How can he protect his wife

and household, or how can he raise his children to obey Allaah when he is

disobeying Him and telling others to do likewise?

It says in al-Mawsoo’ah

al-Fiqhiyyah (24/62):

The wali (guardian) should

not give the female relative in his care in marriage to anyone but a man who

is pious and righteous. End quote.

Shaykh Saalih al-Fawzaan

said in al-Muntaqa (4/question no. 198):

When marrying, we should

choose righteous spouses who adhere firmly to their religion, who respect

the sanctity of marriage and the importance of good treatment (of spouses).

It is not permissible to be careless with regard to this matter. Such

heedlessness has become widespread nowadays, with regard to this important

matter. People give their daughters and female relatives in marriage to men

who do not fear Allaah and the Last Day, and they end up complaining about

the husbands and they are confused about how to deal with them. If they had

looked for a righteous man before marriage, Allaah would have made it easy

for them (to find such a man). But in most cases this stems from negligence

and a failure to seek righteous husbands, and a bad man can never be

suitable. It is not permissible to take this matter lightly, because (such a

man) will mistreat the woman and he may lead her away from her religion or

influence her children. End quote.

Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen said

in Fataawa Noor ‘ala al-Darb (al-Nikaah/Ikhtiyaar al-Zawj/question

no. 16):

What the woman’s guardian

must do if a suitor comes to propose to her is to find out about his

religious commitment and character. If they are good then he should give her

to him in marriage, and if they are not good then he should not do so, and

Allaah will bring to his female relatives one who is religiously committed

and of good character, for when Allaah knows that the reason why the

guardian did not give her to that suitor was so that a man of good character

and religious commitment could propose to her, then He will help him to find

such a man. End quote.

What we think is that you

should not accept this fiancé, and Allaah will compensate you with someone

better than him.

And Allaah knows best.