Aslam

Praise be to Allah.Firstly:

The wife has

no right to go out of her husband’s house without his permission, and her

family have no right to help her or encourage her to do that, because her

leaving and not returning constitute disobedience towards her husband and

rebellion against him which makes her guilty of nashooz (wilful defiance).

Their taking

their daughter away is another act of wrongdoing, and their stipulating that

you must become very rich before they will return your wife to you is

wrongdoing upon wrongdoing. They have no right to do any such thing. When

they accepted the marriage and the marriage contract was done and the

husband paid the mahr, they were obliged to hand the wife over to the

husband, so how about when she was with him and had borne him a child!

You do not

say anything about your financial situation, and whether you have enough to

spend on your wife or not. Are you hard up or do you have enough to spend on

yourself and your family?

The majority

of scholars are of the view that the husband’s inability to spend on his

wife is sufficient grounds for separating them, if the wife requests that.

But if she accepts it and does not ask for separation, then no one has the

right to separate them. See al-Mawsoo’ah al-Fiqhiyyah (5/254 and

29/58).

Secondly:

You should

take the following steps to get your wife back:

1-Reconcile between yourself and

Allaah, may He be exalted, so that you can reconcile between yourself and

other people.

2-Ask Allaah to divert harm from

you, and to suffice you against the evil of all evildoers.

3-Try to reach an understanding

with your wife’s family and find out what their attitude really is. They may

have other reasons apart from the issue of wealth.

4-Appoint religiously committed

and righteous people to intervene and advise them, and explain to them the

seriousness of their wrongdoing and aggression.

5-Refer the matter to the courts,

to have your wife and daughter returned to you.

We ask

Allaah to make things easy for you and to help you to do that which He loves

and which pleases Him.

And Allaah

knows best.