Aslam

Praise be to Allah.So long as

you are chaste and have not committed any immoral action – praise be to

Allaah – then you do not have to tell him, and you should not worry about

that. The hymen may be broken due to jumping, insertion of fingers, heavy

menses, lengthy spinsterhood and other reasons that the fuqaha’ have

mentioned.

See:

al-Mabsoot (5/8), Kashshaaf al-Qinaa’ (5/47) and al-Fataawa

al-Kubra (3/88)

The husband

should think well of his wife if he finds out that she is not a virgin. As

we have mentioned, virginity may be lost due to causes other than immoral

actions. If we assume that he asks you, you can answer him in a way that

will ward off doubt from his mind. Rest assured that Allaah will support His

believing slave and help him. See also question no.

40278.

The Standing

Committee for Issuing Fatwas was asked: A Muslim woman had an accident when

she was small in which her hymen was broken. She has got married but the

marriage has not yet been consummated. In another case, a woman suffered the

same accident, and now religiously-committed brothers are coming to propose

marriage to her. They are both confused about their situation. Which is

better – should the married woman tell her husband before consummation of

the marriage or should she keep quiet? And should the one who is not married

yet go ahead with it, lest it become known and people think badly of her?

This happened when she was small and was not yet accountable. Or is this

regarded as deceit and cheating? Should she tell those who come to propose

or not, for the sake of getting married?

They

replied: there is no shar’i reason why she should not conceal it, then if he

asks her after consummation of the marriage, she can tell him the truth. End

quote from Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah (19/5)

We ask

Allaah to help you and guide you.

And Allaah knows

best.