Aslam

Praise be to Allah.

Firstly:

We ask Allaah to cleanse his heart and body, and to guide

him to the best of attitudes, words and deeds.

Secondly:

It should be noted that this action of his comes under the

heading of perversion. It is not by doing such actions that the Muslim

expresses gratitude to his Lord, may He be glorified and exalted, and it is

not in this manner that the Muslim will preserve the great blessings that

Allaah has bestowed upon him. He should give up these perverse actions which

go against the sound nature that Allaah has instilled in man, and go against

all revealed laws, and for which everyone of sound mind will hate him.

Thirdly:

It should be noted that such perverse actions are a sign of

an idle mind, and he has to give up the things that led him to behave in the

manner of perverts. Perhaps among these reasons – and the greatest of them –

is having a heart that is devoid of faith, and a soul that is devoid of

shyness before Allaah and His angels, as well as watching haraam TV series,

movies and perverse actions, and having a life that is devoid of useful

work, not wanting to get married and liking to stay alone, and many other

such reasons which may cause a man to fall into bad ways.

Fourthly:

He should hasten to give up this perverse action and repent

to his Lord. He must strive to furnish his heart with faith and fill his

life with righteous deeds and actions that will benefit his spiritual and

worldly interests. He must be keen to hasten to protect himself by means of

marriage to a righteous woman who will help him to remain chaste and obey

his Lord, and he must stop watching haraam things or staying alone which

makes it easy for him to fall into immoral ways.

Fifthly:

He should also note that he is causing physical and

psychological harm to himself. He will see the negative consequences of what

he is doing on his body after a while, and he will see how much

psychological pain he will suffer, which will deprive him of sleep and

prevent him from enjoying his food and drink. He will see how much he will

suffer of physical pain which will prevent him from relieving himself with

ease, and how much he will suffer of infections and ulcers if he persists in

this perverse action of his.

Sixthly:

He needs someone to explain to him that what he is doing is

haraam, and to remind him and exhort him (to follow the right path).

The one who is afflicted with any of these haraam actions has

to remember two things:

1-To feel shy before Allaah and

his angels and before himself too.

2-To fear death and to fear lest

Allaah causes him to die when he is doing that to himself.

With regard to shyness:

We know that he believes that Allaah can see him in all

situations, but perhaps he forgets about that at the time when he is

committing this sin. If this belief becomes established in his heart, with

time he will begin to feel shy of Allaah seeing him falling short in

obedience or committing a sin. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“Knows he not that Allaah does see (what he does)?”

[al-‘Alaq 96:14]

“And indeed We have created man, and We know what his

ownself whispers to him. And We are nearer to him than his jugular vein (by

Our Knowledge)”

[Qaaf 50:16]

‘Abd-Allaah ibn Mas’ood

(may Allaah be pleased with him) said: Feel shy before Allaah is the true

sense of the word. They said: We feel shy before Allaah. He said: That is

not the way; the one who feels shy before Allaah in the true sense of the

word should be watchful of his mind and whatever enters it, and he should be

watchful of his stomach and whatever enters it, and he should remember death

and decay. Whoever hopes for the reward in the Hereafter would shun the

temptation of this world. Whoever does that is shy before Allaah in the true

sense of the word.

Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Targheeb,

1724.

He believes that Allaah has appointed noble angels over him

who can see him and hear him, and they record what he does of good deeds and

bad deeds, and they never leave him in any situation. If he feels shy of

them, he will give up the perverse actions that he is doing.

Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“But verily, over you (are appointed angels in charge of

mankind) to watch you,

11. Kiraaman (Honourable) Kaatibeen —writing down (your

deeds),

12. They know all that you do”

[al-Infitaar 82:10-12]

Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:

i.e., feel shy before

these honourable watchers and respect them; spare them from seeing you do

anything which you would not want those who are like you to see you doing,

for the angels are offended by that which offends the sons of Adam. If the

son of Adam would be offended by one who commits immoral actions and sins in

front of him, even if he might also do something similar, then how do you

think the honourable recording angels will be offended?

Al-Jawaab al-Kaafi, p. 75

One of the salaf said: With you are those who never leave

you, so feel shy of them and respect them.

He would feel shy of doing that in front of people, so how

can he not feel shy before Allaah and His angels?

With regard to death:

He should remember that he does not know when the Angel of

Death will come to him to take his soul, and he does not know the situation

that he will be in at that time. Would he like his death to come now, before

he repents? Would he like his soul to be taken when he is doing this

perverse action? Does he not know that deeds are judged according to a

person’s final deeds? Does he not know that Allaah will raise the people in

the same condition that they died? What will his situation be when he

emerges from his grave on the Day of Resurrection? What will he say to his

Lord when he stands before Him?

One of the salaf said: There are two things that put an end

of enjoyment of this world for me: remembering death, and remembering the

standing before Allaah, may He be exalted.

‘Umar ibn ‘Abd al-‘Azeez (may Allaah have mercy on him) used

to gather the scholars and they would talk about death, the Resurrection and

the Hereafter, and they would weep so much that it was as if there was a

funeral taking place before them.

One of the salaf said: The one who remembers death is

honoured with three things: hastening to repent, contentment of heart and

energy for worship. Whoever forgets death is punished with three things:

delaying repentance, not being content with enough, and laziness in worship.

It should be noted that a good end is only granted to the one

who was righteous both inwardly and outwardly, and a bad end is given to one

who was inwardly corrupt, or who persisted in major sins. It should be noted

that a man will die as he lived, and his life will end in the manner that he

persisted in and did not give up.

It was said to a man who was in the throes of death: “Say

Laa ilaaha ill-Allaah.” And he started singing, because he used to be

infatuated by singing. It was said to a drinker when he was dying: “Say

Laa ilaaha ill-Allaah,” and he started saying: “Drink and pour me

some.”

Perhaps what we have mentioned is sufficient to make him give

up his evil deeds and come back to his Lord, and to ask Him to help him and

guide him. We have given more advice and suggestions in the answer to

question no. 20068, which we

hope he will read too.

We ask Allaah to guide him and set his affairs straight.

And Allaah is the Source of strength.