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only five dirhams. There is in Hadis that there is good in a woman who is given in marriage without delay, who gives birth to a child without delay and for whom a small amount'of dower is fixed. One should not marry coveting many goods from the bride. Mutual presents are commendable and signs of love. The Prophet said ; Give present, it will beget mutual love and don't seek too much present from each other. God says : Don't give present in search of excessive presents.

(5) Bride should not be barren if it is known . The Prophet said: Marry lovely and child-bearing women.

(6) Bride should be virtuous: The Prophet said to Hazrat Jaber : Why have you not married a virgin girl, so that you could have played with her and she could have played with you ? He married a previously married woman. There are three benefits if a virgin girl is married . She loves her husband. The woman who enjoyed husband is generally addicted to her previous husband.
Another benefit is that the love of the husband for his wife becomes perfect and the third benefit is that a virgin girl will not have occasion to grieve for a previous husband.

(7) She must come of a respectable family: If she comes of a good family, she can educate her issues good manners and good conduct. The Prophet said : Choose woman for your semen, as a vein is like an arrow.

(8) Bride should not be a near relative as in that case sexual passion becomes less. The Prophet said : Don't marry a near relative as in that case a child is born weak. The Prophet said : he who gets his daughter married to a transgressor, cuts of his blood tie.

SECTION 3

SOME RULES AFTER MARRIAGE

The husband shall observe twelve rules after marriage.

(1) Marriage feast is commendable. Hazrat Anas reported :
The Prophet once saw yellow colour on the body of Abdur Rahman-b- Auf and said : What is it ? He said : I have married a woman in lieu of a piece of gold. He said : May God bless you both. Give feast with a goat. When the Prophet married Sufiyah, he gave feast with grapes and wheat. The Prophet said : Feast on

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the first day is a duty, feast on the second day is sunnat and feast on the third days is for show. If a man who does an act for show , Cod will disgrace him, It is commendable to give blessing to the bridegroom thus : May God unite you both in good. It is commendable to proclaim marriage. The Prophet said :
Distinguish between lawful and unlawful thing by proclamation or marriage by beating 'DaP He said : Proclaim this marriage, perform it in mosque and beat 'Daf for it.