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(2) The husband should treat well with his wife. God says :
Treat them with kindness . God says in the fulfillment of their duties: I have taken a solemn oath from you. The Prophet gave three instructions at the time of his death. Soon after that, his tongue was closed and his words stopped. He was saying — prayer, prayer. Don't inflict trouble on one whom your right hands posesse beyond his capacity . And about your women — they are prisoners in your hands. You have, taken them as trusts of God and you have made their private parts lawful with the words of God. The Prophet said.: If a man keeps patience at the ill-treatment of his wife, God will give him rewards like the rewards of Ayub which God gave him for his patience in disasters. If a wife keeps patience at the ill — treatment of her husband, God will give her rewards like the rewards which God gave to Asiyah, wife of Pharaoh. To have patience at the time when the wife gets angry and when she gives trouble is following the Prophet in good treatment with her. It is not merely to restrain oneself from inflicting troubles on the wife.
The wives of the Prophet at times argued before the Prophet.
Once a wife of the Prophet placed her hand on the chest of the Prophet and gave him a push. At this , her mother rebuked here.
The Prophet said : Leave her, as she does more than this . Once there was altercation between the Prophet and Hazrat Ayesha, when they found Hazrat Abu Bakr as their judge. Hazrat Ayesha said to the Prophet : You speak but don't speak except truth. At.
once Hazrat Abu Bakr gave her such a slap that blood began to ooze out from her mouth. Then he said : O enemy, will he speak but truth ? Then she took refuge to the Prophet.

(3) Make plays and sports with the wife after bearing hardships given by her. This gives pleasure to the wife. The Prophet used to cut joker vith his wives and come down to the level of their intelligence in their manual labours. The Prophet

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ran races with Ayesha. One day Ayesha won the race and on another day, the Prophet won it and said : This is the revenge of that day. The Prophet said : The most perfect believer in faith is one who is the best of them in good conduct. The Prophet said :
The best of you is one who treats best with his wife among you.
Hazrat Omar inspite of his stemess said : Stay in the house with your wife like a boy. When the wife demands things from her husband, he should treat like a man .The wise Loqman said : A wise man should live in his house like a boy and when she stays among people, he should stay like a man. There is it, a Hadis Qudsi : God dislikes a man who is stern to his family and self-conceited . The Prophet said to Jaber : Have you not found a virgin to marry ? You could have played with her and she with you. A desert woman described her husband after his death : By God, he was fond of sports and when there was darkness, he remained silent.